what is your True Self IQ?
See yourself as others do.
This new app will improve your self-awareness and see how others perceive you.
Find out what the friends who know you best, say about you behind your back. Because they are too scared to tell you to your face.
Now they can - ANONYMOUSLY.
Improve your relationship intelligence to understand the gap between what you think about yourself - and how others experience you.
Perhaps because of low self-esteem, you think you’re a ‘3’, but collectively your friends really think you’re a 7+. Or may be you think you’re a ’10’ - but they know you’re a 7.
Discover how compatible you are with your partner. What do either or both of you need to do to improve your relationship?
All these insights are potentially life-changing for you; for friendships, your career and especially if you are dating.
For ios. Android version on the way.
You think: “I’m outgoing and good at conversation.”
Others see: “You dominate conversations, talking mostly about yourself. You don’t listen enough to others.”
You think: “I’m just being honest.”
Others see: “You can be blunt or insensitive.”
You think: “I’m confident and self-assured.”
Others see: “You can come across as intimidating or unapproachable.”
You think: “I like structure and planning.”
Others see: “You try to control everything.”
Fill in the self-assessment. Then invite up to 10 friends and family who know you well to fill it in too - totally ANONYMOUSLY.
So choose supportive friends (no frenemies).
Once more than 2 friends have completed it, your file is unlocked so you can see how you scored. Then download a private PDF report.
This helps you get 'Relationship REAL'.
You receive your TrueSelfIQ Score and your TrueSelfIQ Gap (the difference between your self-perception and the perception of others who know you well.)
Either way, you’ll see your blind-spots, your hidden strengths, where you’re aligned and areas where you’re not (at the moment).
What the Dating Apps Can’t (or Won’t Fix)
Dating apps have a fundamental flaw - they tend to inflate the perceived desirability for women. And reduce how men perceive their desirability. See below for more background info on this.
Research analysing millions of interactions across dating apps has revealed a stark reality: digital dating environments routinely skew perceptions of desirability. Studies show that men swipe right between 46–61% of the time, while women typically swipe right only 4–14% of the time. This asymmetry creates a structural imbalance where many women receive large volumes of attention while most men struggle to gain visibility.
The result is a distorted marketplace. TrueSelfIQ helps men and women gain a much more accurate view of themselves by people who know them well.
In some datasets, women match with roughly 45% of profiles they like, while men match with only about 3%. Network modeling studies of dating platforms also show that attention tends to cluster around a small minority of users, leaving the majority with very little engagement.
“These platforms weren’t designed to give people an accurate picture of their dating prospects,” says founder Roy Sheppard. “They were designed to maximise swipes and screen time. That has consequences: inflated expectations for some users and unnecessary discouragement for others.”
TrueSelfIQ aims to change that.
"I see a future where singles who are serious about finding a long-term partner can include their TrueSelfIQ score as part of their dating profile so potential partners can see something far more meaningful, than the millions of superficial profiles seen today.” says Sheppard.
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A former BBC TV and radio presenter and an international conference speaker, emcee and facilitator.
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